Dishwasher Dilemna

Is it common for people to be very opinionated about how the dishwasher should be loaded? In our family it is. It stems from my Grandpa Scrimsher. He has firm beliefs that the bowls should all be facing the center of the dishwasher. My mom acquired some interesting techniques herself. She feels that the glasses should be alternated from plastic to glass so that the glass doesn't bump against another breakable glass and cause it to break. She also thinks that anything over the size of a plate should be washed by hand. Pots and pans in the dishwasher is a sin in her home. My dad feels strongly that all silverware should be pointed up. I have no opinions on dishwasher loading techniques because I decided this was one area I could be laid back in and not take on the anal dishwasher tactics. I put the plates and bowls haphazardly in the dishwasher, my silverware is scattered everywhere and I even throw in pots and pans whenever there is sufficient space.(I know, I live on the wild side) However, I married Matt who also has strong opinions on dishwasher loading- I do not know why because he never unloads the dishwasher. But, often times I will catch him taking out dishes I have put in the dishwasher and reloading them in just the right way. It seems that Ashton, at the young age of four, has already been influenced by the dishwasher gene. Yesterday I had him load his silverware in the dishwasher for the first time, because I felt he was old enough. He took his spoon and looked at the rows of silverware in the dishwasher and said "why are there forks in the spoon aisle?" Then he proceeded to take the forks out and place them in their "proper place" and put his spoon amongst the other ones in the now declared "spoon aisle." What have we done!